With so many ways to deck out your MySpace profile, it can be easy to forget just how much weight the “relationship status” feature carries in modern day dating. MySpace offers four options for its users, which appear to be pretty clear-cut: single, in a relationship, married, divorced and swinger.
Of course, as most of us know all too well, relationships are rarely straightforward. More and more people are checking their love interest’s profiles to monitor their romantic activity. With just the click of a button, a person can express their romantic desires or wreck heartbreak havoc—or both.
Melena Ryzik writes about online dating in ‘Is It Over? Log on and See’ (unfortunately you have to log into Times Select site to view it, but there’s always BugMeNot for outsiders). Ryzik says relationship etiquette in the digital age is, like many relationships, still in the gray area:
But what are the rules? How long are you supposed to wait to change your status after a breakup — or, for that matter, when a relationship begins? And beyond checking off status, what should you do with sexy comments a fling has posted? Or when do you downgrade an ex’s online avatar from your list of top friends?
Facebook’s “It’s complicated” option is currently the best choice according relationship experts.
I think that complicates things more.
The “swinger” option on MySpace remains a mystery to most, but is a good option if you want to avoid the question all together and take the comedic route.
Ryzik provides a pretty unfortunate example of when your personal life and your digital life collide, only to result in anguish:
After pressuring a guy she had been seeing into setting up a Friendster profile (back in 2004, when Friendster was cool), Shanta Thake, 26, a club booker in Manhattan, was alarmed to find that he had listed his status as “in a relationship.” Though they had been dating for several months, hers still said single because they hadn’t had ‘the talk’ yet, she said.
Recently Britney Spears committed the ultimate crime in digital etiquette
when she allegedly dumped K-Fed in a text message.
You can’t text message breakup! Don’t you know that’s its toxic?